Fridays are off work. So, Friday last week I relaxed most of the day. It’s nice to be myself to just think and at the same time rest my mind. In the evening I had a short visit from Nilufar (the chairperson of Shishu Tori) and her daughter. They were only here for 10 minutes, but it was nice meeting them.
On Saturday around 1:30 pm Milon came to me and about 45 minutes later we headed towards Kawran Bazar to work in the School Under the Sky, which Shishu Tori runs there. We went by rickshaw first and then we walked a little to get to Kawran Bazar. There is a vegetable market next to where the classes are being held, the School Under the Sky is being held in a storage facility on the 1st floor. The classes had begun when we arrived and the street children were learning Bangla as we entered the storage room. Just like in the two other Schools Under the Sky, the one in Kawran Bazar also has two classes, one basic and one more advanced. I sat down on a chair next to the children to supervise the class, then some children started coming up to me showing their blackboards and notebooks and I told them that I will help them with the English part, as I can’t help them with the Bangla part (yet). More and more of the street children came up to me with their blackboards and notebooks to read what they had written and make sure that it was correct. Most of them came with blackboards and notebooks without any mistakes. One boy had written “tsis” instead of “this”, so I showed him how to write it correctly, then about 5-10 minutes later he came back with correct sentences including “this is a man”, “this is a ball” etc. I’m very glad and happy about how fast learners the street children are and how focused they are no matter the disturbances around them (noise, people etc.). The atmosphere is different in all three Schools Under the Sky; in Osmani Uddan Park the street children are sitting in a park with no roof, but it’s a nice and quiet environment. In Kamlapur Railway Station the school has a lot more of different people around as the school is on a platform and then we have the school in Kawran Bazar. I have now been to all three schools and even if they are all street children, they have been showing different behaviors in all three places. Here in Kawran Bazar many of the street children really wanted to come and show their work and what they are learning. In all three schools they are learning the same things; Bangla, English, maths, health/hygiene and have exercise at the end of the class. After the class was finished, several of the street children followed me and were waving good bye, before Milon and I jumped into a CNG (mini auto rickshaw) to go to the New Market.
In the New Market that is not very far from where I live there are lots of stores that sell different items, everything from kitchen utensils, bathroom items, clothes, bedroom items etc. I bought a few towels, bed sheets, pillows, pillowcases etc. I need extra pairs of these things as I sometimes sweat more than usual. After walking around in the New Market, buying things, laughing with people, being invited to a dinner once again, me and Milon headed home to my apartment building Karim Tower.
The same evening, just awhile after I had returned to my apartment, Aminul Islam (building manager) knocked on my door and wanted to take me out to see the Durga Puja festival (Hindu festival). I told him I needed to rest a little first and then we can go out. Then one of the sons from apartment 8C, Amirsohel, knocked on my door too and also wanted to go out with me to the Durga Puja. I told him that around 10 o’clock I would be ready. I had dinner and at the same time I had three boys at the age of 8-11 here in my apartment, the three boys were Amirsohel, Muhammi and Tanzim (all from my apartment building). Amirsohel is the one that wants to talk to me the most and who always has questions. He told me he wants to be in the air force when he grows up, real cute.
So, around 10 o’clock we all (I, Amirsohel, Tanzim and two workers in our apartment building, Aminul Islam and Ali Hussain) walked to the Durga Puja festival by the Dhakeswari Temple (which is very close from our apartment building). While at the festival Amirsohel was holding my hand most of the time and told me what to do and not to do, I really like him. “Erik, don’t eat that”, “Erik, here are toys, small games, it’s mind games, when you just want to play”, “Erik, he is a lunatic, you can take picture if you want”. We stayed at the festival area for less than an hour and that was enough, I wasn’t too convinced and to me the Durga Puja festival was not that interesting, but it was nice to get out with the children and Aminul and Ali.
The following day, Sunday, was a public holiday because of the Durga Puja. I relaxed most of the day and had some visitors in my apartment. Mabiya and Sagur were also here and cleaned and washed clothes.
In the evening Amirsohel knocked on my door and came to visit me, we talked for awhile in my apartment and then we went up on the terrace of our building. It was my first time up there and it was really nice, we have a spectacular view of Dhaka from the 10th floor. I will definitely go up there when I want to just dream away in my mind. We watched the city, the moon and the stars. Amirsohel is a really nice 11 years old boy who speaks English very well and is clever. After a short while we went down to my apartment again and he wanted to play computer games, so we played a few small games and then later he went home. But it didn’t take more than maybe 10 minutes until it knocked on the door once again and it was Amirsohel who came back to ask if he could stay longer with me, he said; “lets cook!”. Hehe, he really wanted to cook with me. So we cooked, noodles with vegetables and fruit. While we were cooking we talked about different things, he’s really straight forward. He also said; “Erik, now I have brother…you are my brother”. After finished cooking we enjoyed our dinner and Amirsohel said; “the noodles are reaaaal yummy!” Hehe, too cute. After dinner we played some games on my other mobile phone (my Swedish one) and we also had fun recording audio files, which we laughed at. While playing on my mobile phone the electricity in my apartment was out for maybe 30-40 minutes, and then it returned. Amirsohel also asked me; “Erik, do you love babies?”. Hehe, what can I say, this boy is amazing.
On Monday morning Kanta came to my apartment and we took a rickshaw together to the office in Motijheel. When I got to the office the power was out, but it came back after 15 minutes or so. I and Forhad started writing down a draft plan for our work with the street girls project proposal/documentary/portfolio. It’s a lot of work, but very interesting and inspiring to work with. When Nilufar had arrived I went in to her office and discussed both work and private with her. Then back to Forhad’s room to continue the work I had started with Forhad earlier. Forhad and I also officially received an invitation from Kanta to a wedding, which was going to be held later that same evening. It was a close relative to Kanta getting married. Around 1 pm all Shishu Tori staffs had a meeting in Nilufar’s office about the street girls project and how we should work with it from now on. The first thing we are going to do is to interview the staffs about the street girls. After our meeting I, Forhad and Milon started writing questions, which we are going to use while interviewing the staffs. I and Forhad left the office just after 5 pm.
I came home and just relaxed and had some dinner, as I was really hungry. Afterwards I dressed up and got ready for the wedding. Forhad came to me before 8 pm, we went and bought some flowers for the bride and then we continued to the place where the wedding ceremony and festivities took place. Forhad and I came and met several different relatives and friends, we sat at a dinner table with about 12 other people and some people at the table where around my age. There were two twin brothers with one wife and another brother’s wife. As the Bangladeshi people eat the food with their hands, I started joking when someone came up to me, I held my greasy hand and said; “hello, nice to meet!” and showed my really greasy hand and the people around me started laughing and one of the twin brothers said; “you are very funny man!”. You can imagine my hand being filled with sauce, rice, chicken and then me trying to greet. I had a really nice time at the wedding and I also got the opportunity to go to the kitchen and meet the head chef. It’s no easy task cooking for 600 people. After the dinner Kanta introduced me to the bride so that I could give her the flowers we had bought and I also met with the bridegroom. Later Forhad and I left the wedding and took a rickshaw home, it had been a quite long day with lots of new experiences for me, so I was getting tired when I returned home. This was a nice day in my life.
Tuesday morning Kanta and I went to work together, like we often do. We came to the office and I printed out the questions that we are going to use while we interview the staffs about the street girls’ life situations. The first person we, Forhad and I, interviewed was Fatima (age unknown, but approximately 18 years old), who used to be a street girl but is now working and helping Shishu Tori. One of our questions to her was; “What kind of problems do the street girls face by men?” and Fatima answered the question like this; “When the street girls stay in the streets, some street boys want to get involved with the girls sexually. If the boys aren’t allowed, they will continue to disturb the street girls and sometimes even cut the street girls with a blade in their faces or on their arms and legs. When the street girls accept getting involved in a relationship, then after a few months the street boy will start to demand that the street girl makes a living and gives him money and also provides him with food. If the street girl doesn’t agree to a relationship, the street boy will torture her in an open place and leave the street girl, and move on to another street girl. At that time, the street girl is left alone with sometimes more than two children, these children won’t receive any care or love from the mother and will become street children themselves living in the streets. I and Forhad could really tell that Fatima has lots of knowledge about living in the streets and about the situation for street girls in Dhaka. We spoke to Fatima for more than 1 hour, it was close to 1h 30min.
In the afternoon I, Forhad and Kanta went to Kamlapur Railway Station. Forhad and I interviewed two other Shishu Tori staffs about street girls’ daily life situations, just like we interviewed Fatima earlier in the day. First we interviewed Ronet, a 22 years old man who is holding one of the classes for the street children on the platform at Kamlapur Railway Station. It was very interesting to hear his answers to our questions and I could tell that he also knows a lot about the lives of street girls. Then we spoke to Popy, she’s a female teacher at the age of 20, and one of the most interesting things she talked about which I will try to find out more about is the problem of trafficking with Bangladeshi street girls. She told us about how street girls from Bangladesh are being sold to India, Pakistan, Dubai and other countries and how they are being shipped in buses, trains etc. This matter I’m really interested in to find out more about.
While interviewing Ronet and Popy there came lots of people around us and there were several street children who came around and I snapped some pictures of them and they were laughing. One street boy tried to kiss another street boy, another street boy had a pair of sunglasses with one broken glass. There was also a really needy boy, Bablu, who came up to us, he was very thin, his face looked really bad and he was definitely suffering from various diseases. He left his family in Kushtia four years ago, when he was nine, and has been living in the streets since. I really felt for this boy, Forhad talked to him and he walked with us to the entrance of the railway station.
After work I took a CNG home with Kanta and Forhad. I got home and rested for maybe 30 minutes, then it knocked on the door and it was Amirsohel. He said he had been trying to reach me, but I hadn’t been at home (I was out working). He came and wanted to stay with me for some time. After a while he told me that his mother was cooking and was sending him and me some food to my place. So, we later enjoyed a real feast meal. His mother is a really good cook. She sent us; steamed rice, chicken and vegetables (wok), prawns in a sauce, fried chicken, coconut balls and some other dessert. We couldn’t eat it all, but I was extremely grateful for all the food I was given. They are all very nice to me in apartment 8C. Later I went up with Amirsohel to carry back the tray with plates and bowls. I thanked them very much for the food. They keep telling me if there are any problems I can just tell them. I met with the whole family and two grandparents as well. After socializing I returned to my apartment and just relaxed and rested, I both need it and enjoy being all by myself before going to bed as there are so many new impressions and people that I face everyday.
Yesterday morning me and Kanta went together to office, when I came to the office I started filing the interviews from the previous day into the computer. After that work was done, then Forhad and I interviewed Milon in the office. It was interesting to hear his opinions about the street girls’ life situations. Later in the afternoon I, Forhad and Kanta went to Kawran Bazar and there Forhad and I interviewed two female teachers; Sheoly and Johara, they are both 25 years old. It seemed to me when I heard their answers that they have close relationships with the street girls as their answers were revealing. When it was around 5:30 pm, then we left Kawran Bazar. I went home to my place in a CNG together with Kanta. As I came home I started getting tired, because there is a lot of information in my mind right now.
Today I and Kanta went to the office like many other mornings, we went by rickshaw. I got to the office and started reading about a UK organization which has given financial support to Shishu Tori before and I and Forhad wrote an e-mail to them telling about our current work with street girls. After that, I started filing the interviews we did yesterday in Kawran Bazar. Then after lunch, Forhad and I interviewed Nioty about street girls’ lives and it was very interesting to hear her views and perspectives, she also talked about the problem for street children being used for trafficking. The first place she mentioned where Bangladeshi street children are being sent was Dubai, so I have gotten to understand that it’s a well-known place where Bangladeshi street children are being sold. She also mentioned Karachi, Pakistan. As we have heard before, Pakistan is another country where the children are being sent and sold.
Around 3:15 pm I left office together with Nilufar and Milon to go to the Osmani Uddan Park to interview one of the teachers, Asha. Milon took care of Asha’s class while Nilufar and I were interviewing Asha. We asked her the same nine questions we have asked the other staffs, and Asha knows a lot about the street girls and street children, she really does. When we asked her the question; “what kind of problems do the street girls face by women?” Then she mostly talked about trafficking and she told us a few stories. One story she told us about happened two doors from where she is living, and it was about a woman who came up to 3-4 years old children and let them smell flowers, then she took them to a room and locked them inside it. One day, when this woman wasn’t around, the children who were locked inside the room screamed loud enough for a man nearby to hear their voices, the man forced the door and opened it to rescue the children, when the woman later returned she was beaten by the people in the neighborhood and taken to the police. Asha later found out about the story of the woman as she was forced to tell the police about the children in the room. This woman sold and shipped the children to a place in India, where they cut off the children’s heads and use the brain and blood for different purposes; one is for medicine, but the most horrific reason Nilufar and I heard is that some use the blood and brain and mix it when they are making bricks to make them more firm. Hearing this was extremely tough as I meet these young street children daily and feel how innocent they are, and then they are completely exploited by others to an extent where their bodies are being sold, their heads are chopped off and used for different purposes. Another story Asha told us about, happened just two days ago; there was rickshaw wallah (driver) who had a lady with a bag on his rickshaw, as the legs of the rickshaw driver was hitting the bag, he asked her; “what kind of stick do you have in your bag?” and she said that it’s no stick. The driver got a little suspicious and stopped along the road and went to bring out some other people to see what was in the bag. The woman was forced to open her bag and inside the bag was a strapped 5-years old alive boy lying and it was the rickshaw driver’s son!!! The rickshaw driver naturally fainted and the woman who had taken the boy was beaten in the open place, before she was taken to the police and at the police they once again found out that this boy was about to be sold to India, to cut off his head and use his brain and blood.
Hearing these stories and how detailed Asha told them was almost too much for my mind, soul and heart, as I understand that the next victim of trafficking can be anyone of the vulnerable street girls or street boys. These last 3-4 days has been tough emotionally and mentally hearing about the street girls’ lives and struggles. Tomorrow is off work, and I need to recharge mentally and emotionally as we are probably going to start interview the street girls next week. I’m a very emotional person with lots of soul and heart for these street children and for people I love and care about, but at the same time I need to find energy and strength within myself.
To my loved ones (family, friends, relatives…); when you read this, just think for two or three minutes about what I really write in my Diary and try to imagine the lives of these street children. I know it’s difficult sitting in Sweden, Germany, France, USA and so on. But try to picture what you have just read, and then be grateful to where you are, what you have and who loves you. It’s no small thing I’m talking about, I’m talking about caring for your loved ones and be grateful for having someone by your side, something that most street children here don’t have at all.
Much Love!
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